The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naïve forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.
– Thomas Szasz
I find it hard to forgive people who refuse to admit their mistake. I think that arguments should end with an understanding or a consensus on that issue. Quarrels should end with both party clarifying what they are fighting for and come to a settlement on that matter.
I hate leaving things of this sort hanging. I hate it when people just move on with their lives without arriving a settlement. Chances are, problems similar to the one left hanging may come and it’s the same old drama all over again.
Because of this, it is very hard for me to forgive most of the times. And I am the person who chooses not to forget.
Conflicts are not just proof of how human understanding can be varied. They are also here to allow us to learn, to foster understanding despite the differences.
One thing to lessen these is to let go of personal biases and pride.
Learn empathy, consideration and compassion.
There are so many things I have to learn.